Saturday, June 30, 2007

My Opinion On Oprah's Words

The following is a piece by Oprah posted on a community dedicated to her on Orkut.
"If a man wants you, nothing can keep him away. If he doesn't want you, nothing can make him stay. Stop making excuses for a man and his behavior. Allow your intuition (or spirit) to save you from heartache. Stop trying to change yourself for a relationship that's not meant to be. Slower is better. Never live your life for a man before you find what makes you truly happy. If a relationship ends because the man was not treating you as you deserve then heck no, you can't "be friends". A friend wouldn't mistreat a friend.

Don't settle. If you feel like he is stringing you along, then he probably is. Don't stay because you think "it will get better." You'll be mad at yourself a year later for staying when things are not better. The only person you can control in a relationship is you. Avoid men who've got a bunch of children by a bunch of different women. He didn't marry them when he got them pregnant, why would he treat you any differently? Always have your own set of friends separate from his. Maintain boundaries in how a guy treats you. If something bothers you, speak up. Never let a man know everything. He will use it against you later. You cannot change a man's behavior. Change comes from within. Don't EVER make him feel he is more important than you are...even if he has more education or in a better job."

My View

Sorry for playing spoilsport but though no doubt the piece is incredibly intelligent and well written, I wish to raise a finger on the practicality of its application in context of Indian women. Especially, those from rural areas. Think how many Indian women (for that matter, even women from major south-Asian and African nations) can do what Oprah says considering the rigidity of the societal pressures and even self-esteem. Most are bound to suffer quietly. It may be useful to only a few strong-headed women from big cities. Just think about it.

Apologies again for speaking against Oprah (even though I am her ardent fan) and all those who luv her. But do comment and give ur opinions...its just a logical thot...thnx!!


...saliha... said...

i agre
over all the article is superb!

Raj said...

Although you have logical point friend, I hope Oprah's point is actually right ""If a man wants you, nothing can keep him away."" cos I have a MAJOR crush on a girl and I'd like to believe that she will be mine!!